Visualize it!!!

What is this 'visualization'?

 Is that some kinda daydreaming? Like some post-exam tour plans, which is coming in front of your eyes while you are 'trying' to engross yourself into studies? I can understand the pain for sure. You have to finish a stupid paper coz your exam is not only knocking on your doors (exam is never that gentle)...but it is actually slamming the doors and threatening you like some roadside hoodlum...while your mind is taking you to the most coveted holiday destination of yours. This is not that kind of visualization or daydreaming (I still don't get it why is it called 'daydreaming' while clearly I can dream with my eyes open at nights as well!).

Visualization, in modern perspective, is the practice of visualizing yourself in the position where you want to be. It can be anything. If you are working hard for a scholarship, in this case, your visualization should be imagining yourself standing on the stage holding onto that scholarship certificate. In case, right now, if your sole motto of life is to impress a girl, you can visualize the ways how you can be like James Bond and save her for mobs or accidents and then how nicely and gratefully she will come to you and...etc etc...(I'm sorry dude, but it doesn't work in that way...either you gotta hire the 'mobs' or have to hire some people who can organize a fake accident for you...your choice).

This is true that if you keep on visualizing your goals and future, you can actually shape it in that way. All you need is the determination and imagination power. However, your goals gotta be SMART; Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Related & Timely. Whatever you imagine, its gotta be realistic. :-)
It has been a recommended practice for great athletes, sportspeople, music makers, public speakers....VISUALIZE IT! Before a game, it always helps a player to visualize himself giving his best in that game. Jim Carrey, in his initial struggling days, used to practice visualizing the future 'JIM CARREY' in a wonderful way...he wrote a check having his name on it, amounting a million dollars and always carried it in his wallet. Whenever he could, he would take out the check and read it to himself as 'to Mr Carrey, signing amount of your movie'. Now we know where Jim stands.

Ideas like that may seem a bit 'over the top', but it has surely helped those who tried it. Don't you think you might give it a try too? Nothing much you have to do. All you need is to imagine yourself achieving your next goal...feel how it will be when you have achieve what you wanted the most! Imagine people greeting and congratulating you on your success! Make your feelings as real as possible. Along with that, do not forget to keep working your way towards it. I mean, no one can achieve anything by mere 'imagination', right? :-) :-)
You gotta put your efforts in that as well. Go on, try it and you will definitely see the results! :-) :-)
All the Best! :-)

Dependence Deepens Deep Ends...

When my cellphone rings
and its not your ringtone
I close my eyes, bit my lips
wishing for a heart of stone
Am I wrong, am I wrong?


When my sms brings
nothing but a delivery report
I close my eyes, bit my lips
hoping for a drier throat
Am I wrong, Am I wrong?


For every "number busy"
and every "Switched off"
I close my eyes, bit my lips
and think to call "it" off
Am I wrong, Am I wrong?


And after all of these
you give a casual ring
I push the Red button
drier throat...Heart of stone
I'am gone, I'm gone...


It really gets into my nerves when I keep dependency of my happiness on someone else and do not get fair treatment. Dependency is a huge part of our everyday life. Sometimes we refuse to accept and sometimes...we accept to refuse...


If I ask you what do you think of dependency, I am sure most of the answers will not make the word 'Dependency" to be proud of itself. This is one word which, like a virus, won't affect you unless you give it a home. A home where it can nurture itself and grow bigger and stronger and influential. Typically its favorite home is "Character". I won't say Personality. Because I think Personality is like a lair of flesh upon the bone structure of Character. The attractiveness of the lair of flesh depends on how well the bones are structured. No matter how dashing your personality is, if you do not have a strong character underneath, it will not be of much use in long run.

"Our dependency makes slaves out of us, especially if this dependency is a dependency of our self-esteem. If you need encouragement, praise, pats on the back from everybody, then you make everybody your judge"...


 Haven't you realized that we give away a bit of our freedom to a person in exchange for the dependency we keep on him? When in a relationship, its very natural for someone to ask for her partner's opinion on the tiniest things she does...and without realizing what she is doing, she creates small shackles around herself...which, along with time, becomes so heavy that it pulls her downward and then one fine morning, grasping for breath, she wakes up realizing it has been too late and she is too weak now to carry the shackles anymore....Here comes the part when things start changing their routes...Either she eventually learns to carry the burden or she gathers enough courage to break 'em or  she just runs away...This is how dependency turns a relationship into a bed of nails. 


Its very much true that a relationship is build on the mutual dependence of two people and their love. Only a fat-headed person will say otherwise. But just think, do we really need to create so much dependency so that we have to ask for our loved one's opinion in every small little thing we do? I do not think so! I do not need to ask for anyone's opinion on what I will wear today...unless I am a certified retarded, I think I can decide what shall I wear without scaring people around me! Another scene, why is that I have to justify my call log to someone else? It does not matter to anyone else whom I am interacting over the phone! I am not a terrorist...and I certainly do not have some terrorist's number saved on my phone-book! 


There are plenty more! I mean, these personal things like what I will buy or what I will wear or whom I should talk to or whose message shall I receive and why I hang out with my old buddies...they are to be my headaches, not someone else's! There should be a line drawn between mutual Dependence and Dominance...and its our duty to draw the line earlier...or else later on we will have nothing else to do but to juggle with the following choices...


1) Jo chal raha hai, jaise chal raha hai...chalne do...I can't do anything...  :(
                                                      OR    
2) WTH!!! Its my life! let me make it clear...  B-)
                                                      OR    
3) RUNNNN!!!!!!!!!! 


Now its upto you which you will choose! :-)


"Dependence begets subservience and venality, suffocates the germ of virtue, and prepares fit tools for the designs of ambition." .....Thomas Jefferson

Real...Really...Reality

"It is a far, far better thing to have a firm anchor in nonsense than to put out on the troubled seas of thought. "...and indeed it is...to some mortals who have the quantity of brain and trouble in life enough to keep them occupied with their worrying thoughts for a really long time. Here comes the time when your imagination comes in handy. An imagination free from the grasp of the heavy word "Reality" can sometimes work as a bottle of Elixir!


 I remember the time when I was young and would always look forward to the time every night when Ma would switch off the light of my bedroom and I could be free...free with all my visions and dreams...when my imagination would draw so many colorful pictures of the future on the canvas of the night...Those dreams would keep me away from the horrible misery of school everyday. Yes, school life is not all sunshine and lollipop for everyone I am afraid. :-)


Now when I am older, I am having my fare share of meetings with "Reality", Gosh the word sounds Horrendous!!!  Einstein said "Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one." Indeed it is. It would follow you like you dear little puppy dog!!! Only exceptions that you do not love it and it certainly does not qualify to be called as "Cute". :(    


Freud tried to sooth us with ..."Illusions commend themselves to us because they save us pain and allow us to enjoy pleasure instead.  We must therefore accept it without complaint when they sometimes collide with a bit of reality against which they are dashed to pieces." Reality always collides with imaginations but that does not stop us from imagining things. Imagine what would have happened if Jule Verne had thought of entertaining "Reality" while writing "Twenty Thousand Leagues Under The Sea" where he so precisely described a ship which could go anywhere under the sea even when its miles under the water level!!! Sub-marines would not have been made...even if they did, who can say it would not have taken us decades to build it? Picasso is right... "Everything you can imagine is real". Only a true artist could have said that.


So My Dear Watson, DO NOT bind yourself with all the "feasibility tests" of "Practicality" or "Reality" of somethings you really want to do. Dream whatever you want, Imagine things which would even make Spielberg astonished. :-) Our hearts are too weak to keep us alive for hundreds of years. We have a few moments to live this even-changing opera of life. If we spend most of it by worrying, then God Save Us!!!  "Reality is too much to take in heapfuls, but sprinkle it sparingly upon life's path and most can tread it lightly."

Resignation from GF's Post...

To,
My Boyfriend (Ex From Today),
Head of Jerks,
Middle of Hell


                                    Sub: Application for Vacating the post of your GF
not-so-Dear BF,


I am sorry to inform you that I, So and So, am leaving this Relationship and Today would be my last day as your GF. This was a difficult decision as I do not know whether the guy I am going to hook up with would be jerkier than you or not. Being your GF has been a positive experience for which I dearly thank your behavior and attitude towards life. Such as, your Positive thinking power. You think yourself as Dorian Gray which I guess tortures Oscar Wild even in his Grave and certainly no one would ever want to draw your portrait since you have a face of an Ass* [Elizabethan word for "donkey"] which I guess must have given Shakespeare the idea of Puck turning Bottom's head into a Donkey's in "Mid Summer Night's Dream".


I admire your perseverance.  You love your reflection so much that absence of mirrors can not subdue your spirit. So You keep looking at TV (when its not turned on), rear view mirror (while driving), back of the spoon, laptop screen, mobile screen, wrist-watch dial and sometimes even at my specs(which at first I thought was romantic because I thought you were looking into my eyes).


I enjoyed our frequent visits to hair salons where you used to take me to show how important it is for a guy to have a nice hair wash, manicure, pedicure and other beauty treatments. 


 That is how I have learnt a great deal from you, however, "tolerance" enhancement opportunities have led me to accept a position of the GF of another guy. This final decision was reached only after thorough consideration and some expensive gifts and a Candle light dinner provided by my new BF.


In order to lessen the impact of my departure I have taken the decision of taking all the gifts I have given to you along with me(one iPod, Three T-shirts, One shirt, One watch). This might end up as a cost effective idea (as he is almost your size) and I am keeping all the things you ever gave me as a token of your appreciation).


I wish you continue to be a Loser. Feel free to contact me after I leave if I can be of any more pain.


Thanking you,


Sincerely,
SO n So
GF (EX)

Open Book-Closed Book

I have heard many a times people say, 'I am very simple, I am an open book'...this particular phrase is supposed to make us feel that the person is very easy to understand.

But, lets take it from a more realistic point of view...you go to a library where they keep all the books open...you can not see the title or the authore's name or the publisher's name...and you are looking for ...suppose, a book on philosophy...so now, you are stuck with hundreds of "open books"...and you have to read at least one paragraph of each book to get a faint idea about the subject matter...Sounds good!!

I would rather feel comfortable with a person who says "I am normally a closed book, but if you find me interesting, you can browse through the pages"...would save me a lot of time...
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