When my cellphone rings
and its not your ringtone
I close my eyes, bit my lips
wishing for a heart of stone
Am I wrong, am I wrong?
When my sms brings
nothing but a delivery report
I close my eyes, bit my lips
hoping for a drier throat
Am I wrong, Am I wrong?
For every "number busy"
and every "Switched off"
I close my eyes, bit my lips
and think to call "it" off
Am I wrong, Am I wrong?
And after all of these
you give a casual ring
I push the Red button
drier throat...Heart of stone
I'am gone, I'm gone...
It really gets into my nerves when I keep dependency of my happiness on someone else and do not get fair treatment. Dependency is a huge part of our everyday life. Sometimes we refuse to accept and sometimes...we accept to refuse...
If I ask you what do you think of dependency, I am sure most of the answers will not make the word 'Dependency" to be proud of itself. This is one word which, like a virus, won't affect you unless you give it a home. A home where it can nurture itself and grow bigger and stronger and influential. Typically its favorite home is "Character". I won't say Personality. Because I think Personality is like a lair of flesh upon the bone structure of Character. The attractiveness of the lair of flesh depends on how well the bones are structured. No matter how dashing your personality is, if you do not have a strong character underneath, it will not be of much use in long run.
"Our dependency makes slaves out of us, especially if this dependency is a dependency of our self-esteem. If you need encouragement, praise, pats on the back from everybody, then you make everybody your judge"...
Haven't you realized that we give away a bit of our freedom to a person in exchange for the dependency we keep on him? When in a relationship, its very natural for someone to ask for her partner's opinion on the tiniest things she does...and without realizing what she is doing, she creates small shackles around herself...which, along with time, becomes so heavy that it pulls her downward and then one fine morning, grasping for breath, she wakes up realizing it has been too late and she is too weak now to carry the shackles anymore....Here comes the part when things start changing their routes...Either she eventually learns to carry the burden or she gathers enough courage to break 'em or she just runs away...This is how dependency turns a relationship into a bed of nails.
Its very much true that a relationship is build on the mutual dependence of two people and their love. Only a fat-headed person will say otherwise. But just think, do we really need to create so much dependency so that we have to ask for our loved one's opinion in every small little thing we do? I do not think so! I do not need to ask for anyone's opinion on what I will wear today...unless I am a certified retarded, I think I can decide what shall I wear without scaring people around me! Another scene, why is that I have to justify my call log to someone else? It does not matter to anyone else whom I am interacting over the phone! I am not a terrorist...and I certainly do not have some terrorist's number saved on my phone-book!
There are plenty more! I mean, these personal things like what I will buy or what I will wear or whom I should talk to or whose message shall I receive and why I hang out with my old buddies...they are to be my headaches, not someone else's! There should be a line drawn between mutual Dependence and Dominance...and its our duty to draw the line earlier...or else later on we will have nothing else to do but to juggle with the following choices...
1) Jo chal raha hai, jaise chal raha hai...chalne do...I can't do anything... :(
OR
2) WTH!!! Its my life! let me make it clear... B-)
OR
3) RUNNNN!!!!!!!!!!
Now its upto you which you will choose! :-)
"Dependence begets subservience and venality, suffocates the germ of virtue, and prepares fit tools for the designs of ambition." .....Thomas Jefferson
and its not your ringtone
I close my eyes, bit my lips
wishing for a heart of stone
Am I wrong, am I wrong?
When my sms brings
nothing but a delivery report
I close my eyes, bit my lips
hoping for a drier throat
Am I wrong, Am I wrong?
For every "number busy"
and every "Switched off"
I close my eyes, bit my lips
and think to call "it" off
Am I wrong, Am I wrong?
And after all of these
you give a casual ring
I push the Red button
drier throat...Heart of stone
I'am gone, I'm gone...
It really gets into my nerves when I keep dependency of my happiness on someone else and do not get fair treatment. Dependency is a huge part of our everyday life. Sometimes we refuse to accept and sometimes...we accept to refuse...
If I ask you what do you think of dependency, I am sure most of the answers will not make the word 'Dependency" to be proud of itself. This is one word which, like a virus, won't affect you unless you give it a home. A home where it can nurture itself and grow bigger and stronger and influential. Typically its favorite home is "Character". I won't say Personality. Because I think Personality is like a lair of flesh upon the bone structure of Character. The attractiveness of the lair of flesh depends on how well the bones are structured. No matter how dashing your personality is, if you do not have a strong character underneath, it will not be of much use in long run.
"Our dependency makes slaves out of us, especially if this dependency is a dependency of our self-esteem. If you need encouragement, praise, pats on the back from everybody, then you make everybody your judge"...
Haven't you realized that we give away a bit of our freedom to a person in exchange for the dependency we keep on him? When in a relationship, its very natural for someone to ask for her partner's opinion on the tiniest things she does...and without realizing what she is doing, she creates small shackles around herself...which, along with time, becomes so heavy that it pulls her downward and then one fine morning, grasping for breath, she wakes up realizing it has been too late and she is too weak now to carry the shackles anymore....Here comes the part when things start changing their routes...Either she eventually learns to carry the burden or she gathers enough courage to break 'em or she just runs away...This is how dependency turns a relationship into a bed of nails.
Its very much true that a relationship is build on the mutual dependence of two people and their love. Only a fat-headed person will say otherwise. But just think, do we really need to create so much dependency so that we have to ask for our loved one's opinion in every small little thing we do? I do not think so! I do not need to ask for anyone's opinion on what I will wear today...unless I am a certified retarded, I think I can decide what shall I wear without scaring people around me! Another scene, why is that I have to justify my call log to someone else? It does not matter to anyone else whom I am interacting over the phone! I am not a terrorist...and I certainly do not have some terrorist's number saved on my phone-book!
There are plenty more! I mean, these personal things like what I will buy or what I will wear or whom I should talk to or whose message shall I receive and why I hang out with my old buddies...they are to be my headaches, not someone else's! There should be a line drawn between mutual Dependence and Dominance...and its our duty to draw the line earlier...or else later on we will have nothing else to do but to juggle with the following choices...
1) Jo chal raha hai, jaise chal raha hai...chalne do...I can't do anything... :(
OR
2) WTH!!! Its my life! let me make it clear... B-)
OR
3) RUNNNN!!!!!!!!!!
Now its upto you which you will choose! :-)
"Dependence begets subservience and venality, suffocates the germ of virtue, and prepares fit tools for the designs of ambition." .....Thomas Jefferson
2 comments:
There is a beauty of writing comments as anonymous...well off course you dont know me by any chance.... I didnt even read article completely.I am just writing to say that you look so beautiful and lively....thats all....keep on having such a positive and joyous attitude towards life...
Awesome..I liked the way u collate all the different situation and given a Single conclusion about life..Keep writing...Brajesh
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